Studies show that praise and compliments help to build self-esteem.
Sometimes people are hesitant to give and receive compliments.
They fear that praise will lead to pride. But giving appropriate
compliments makes people feel good about themselves. Moreover, it
motivates them to continue doing their best. Exchanging compliments is an
important social skill. It’s not hard to do if you follow a few simple rules.
研究顯示，讚美和稱讚有助
於建立自尊心。有時候人們遲疑去給予或
接受讚美。他們擔心讚美會引致驕傲，但
是給予適當的稱許，只會使人更肯定自
己。除此之外，它也會激發人們繼續全力
以赴。彼此稱讚是一項重要的社交技巧，
如果你能遵循一些簡單的原則去做，就一
點都不難了。
First,be sincere. It’s better just to smile than to say something you don’t
mean. Next, don't overdo it. One simple statement says far more than
going on and on. Also, be specific. Rather than saying “You’re wonderful!”
try “You have a wonderful way with children. They really listen to you.”
Here are some basic phrases to start with:
--Well done!
--Good for you!
--I like the way you . . .
--We appreciate . . .
--What a fine . . .
--We are so impressed with . . .
首先，要誠懇。與其說一些違心之論，還
不如單單微笑就好了；再者，不要表現得一句簡單明瞭的話勝過不停地講
述；還有，要具體。與其說「你真棒
耶！」，不如試著說「你對小孩子真有一
套，他們還真聽你的話呢！」
--這裡有一些基本的片語來幫你起頭：
--做得好！
--你真不賴！
--我很喜歡你?的方式
--我們很欣賞?
--多棒的?
--令我們印象深刻
Dad: This looks great, Kyle! I can tell you’ve worked hard to clean your
room.
Kyle: Thanks, Dad! Really, it wasn’t hard once I got started.
Dad: I see you’ve lined up all your model cars on the shelf. Nice job!
Now, I have some tools in the garage that need to be put in order . . .
Kyle: Dad, you’re kidding, right?
Dad: Right! You’ve earned your free time. Go and play!
會話一
爸爸： 真好耶，凱爾！我看得出來你很賣
力在清理你的房間。
凱爾： 謝謝，爸！真的耶，我一旦起頭就
不難了。
爸爸： 你已經把所有的模型車都整齊地排
在架上了，排得真好！好，現在我
車庫裡有一些工具需要整理一下?
凱爾：爸，你在開玩笑吧，是不是？
爸爸：對啦！你可以輕鬆一下了，去玩
吧！
Receiving praise and compliments sometimes makes people feel
uncomfortable. Often they don’t know how to respond. It is perfectly OK
just to say, “Thank you.” You may want to try changing the focus away
from yourself to the thing being praised. The next step is to return the
compliment by mentioning something positive about the other person.
受到讚美和稱許有時候會使人覺得不
舒服，人們通常不知道該如何反應。其實
只要直接說「謝謝你」就很好了。或者你
可以試著將焦點從自己的身上，轉移到被
稱讚的事上。下一步則可以提出對方的優
點，反過來稱讚他們一番。
Receiving praise and compliments sometimes makes people feel
uncomfortable. Often they don’t know how to respond. It is perfectly OK
just to say, “Thank you.” You may want to try changing the focus away
from yourself to the thing being praised. The next step is to return the
compliment by mentioning something positive about the other person.
受到讚美和稱許有時候會使人覺得不
舒服，人們通常不知道該如何反應。其實
只要直接說「謝謝你」就很好了。或者你
可以試著將焦點從自己的身上，轉移到被
稱讚的事上。下一步則可以提出對方的優
點，反過來稱讚他們一番。
Hazel: That outfit looks so good on you. Blue is really your color!
Marie: Thank you. Actually, I got this on sale. I really feel lucky to
have found it. You know, I’ve always admired the way you
dress, too. Your clothes always fit you so beautifully!
Hazel: Oh, you always say the nicest things! By the way, did you
know Sophia’s Department Store is having a sale right now?
Marie: Oh, that’s right! Thanks for reminding me! I’m so glad we
bumped into each other!
海柔： 那套衣裳穿在你身上真是好看。藍
色真是適合你！
瑪麗： 謝謝你。事實上，我是特價的時候
買到這件衣服的。能發現它真是很
幸運。你知道，我也一直都很欣賞
你穿衣服的格調，你的衣服總是那
麼適合你！
海柔： 喔，你說話就是這麼好聽！對了，
你知不知道蘇菲雅百貨公司正在大
減價耶？
瑪麗： 喔，對啊！謝謝你提醒我！遇到你
我真是高興！
Mark: Congratulations on a job well done, John. Your speech had
everyone on the edge of their seats.
John: Thanks, Mark. I’ll have to tell Bob as soon as we get back to
the office. He helped with the important last section. What’s
more, you designed a great product.
Mark: Don’t mention it. I had lots of help. By the way, we’ve already
got a bunch of orders in. They’ve got to be sent out immediately.
John: Let ’s get back to the office and tell the production department
to get moving!
Spread some cheer! Practice giving praise and compliments. You will soon
find kind words coming your way, too.
馬可： 恭禧，你說得真棒，約翰。你的演
講真是吸引了所有人的注意力。
約翰： 謝謝你，馬可。等我們一回到辦公
室，我一定要馬上告訴鮑伯。他在
結尾那個重要的部份幫了大忙，而
更重要的是，你設計了很棒的產
品。
馬可： 不要這樣說，好多人幫我忙。對
了，我們已經接到一大疊的訂單
了，東西得馬上寄出去。
約翰： 我們回辦公室去，請生產部趕快行
動吧！
多多練習如何讚美和稱許來散播一些
歡樂吧！，你很快就會發現別人也在稱讚
你呢！
Sometimes people are hesitant to give and receive compliments.
They fear that praise will lead to pride. But giving appropriate
compliments makes people feel good about themselves. Moreover, it
motivates them to continue doing their best. Exchanging compliments is an
important social skill. It’s not hard to do if you follow a few simple rules.
研究顯示，讚美和稱讚有助
於建立自尊心。有時候人們遲疑去給予或
接受讚美。他們擔心讚美會引致驕傲，但
是給予適當的稱許，只會使人更肯定自
己。除此之外，它也會激發人們繼續全力
以赴。彼此稱讚是一項重要的社交技巧，
如果你能遵循一些簡單的原則去做，就一
點都不難了。
First,be sincere. It’s better just to smile than to say something you don’t
mean. Next, don't overdo it. One simple statement says far more than
going on and on. Also, be specific. Rather than saying “You’re wonderful!”
try “You have a wonderful way with children. They really listen to you.”
Here are some basic phrases to start with:
--Well done!
--Good for you!
--I like the way you . . .
--We appreciate . . .
--What a fine . . .
--We are so impressed with . . .
首先，要誠懇。與其說一些違心之論，還
不如單單微笑就好了；再者，不要表現得一句簡單明瞭的話勝過不停地講
述；還有，要具體。與其說「你真棒
耶！」，不如試著說「你對小孩子真有一
套，他們還真聽你的話呢！」
--這裡有一些基本的片語來幫你起頭：
--做得好！
--你真不賴！
--我很喜歡你?的方式
--我們很欣賞?
--多棒的?
--令我們印象深刻
Dad: This looks great, Kyle! I can tell you’ve worked hard to clean your
room.
Kyle: Thanks, Dad! Really, it wasn’t hard once I got started.
Dad: I see you’ve lined up all your model cars on the shelf. Nice job!
Now, I have some tools in the garage that need to be put in order . . .
Kyle: Dad, you’re kidding, right?
Dad: Right! You’ve earned your free time. Go and play!
會話一
爸爸： 真好耶，凱爾！我看得出來你很賣
力在清理你的房間。
凱爾： 謝謝，爸！真的耶，我一旦起頭就
不難了。
爸爸： 你已經把所有的模型車都整齊地排
在架上了，排得真好！好，現在我
車庫裡有一些工具需要整理一下?
凱爾：爸，你在開玩笑吧，是不是？
爸爸：對啦！你可以輕鬆一下了，去玩
吧！
Receiving praise and compliments sometimes makes people feel
uncomfortable. Often they don’t know how to respond. It is perfectly OK
just to say, “Thank you.” You may want to try changing the focus away
from yourself to the thing being praised. The next step is to return the
compliment by mentioning something positive about the other person.
受到讚美和稱許有時候會使人覺得不
舒服，人們通常不知道該如何反應。其實
只要直接說「謝謝你」就很好了。或者你
可以試著將焦點從自己的身上，轉移到被
稱讚的事上。下一步則可以提出對方的優
點，反過來稱讚他們一番。
Receiving praise and compliments sometimes makes people feel
uncomfortable. Often they don’t know how to respond. It is perfectly OK
just to say, “Thank you.” You may want to try changing the focus away
from yourself to the thing being praised. The next step is to return the
compliment by mentioning something positive about the other person.
受到讚美和稱許有時候會使人覺得不
舒服，人們通常不知道該如何反應。其實
只要直接說「謝謝你」就很好了。或者你
可以試著將焦點從自己的身上，轉移到被
稱讚的事上。下一步則可以提出對方的優
點，反過來稱讚他們一番。
Hazel: That outfit looks so good on you. Blue is really your color!
Marie: Thank you. Actually, I got this on sale. I really feel lucky to
have found it. You know, I’ve always admired the way you
dress, too. Your clothes always fit you so beautifully!
Hazel: Oh, you always say the nicest things! By the way, did you
know Sophia’s Department Store is having a sale right now?
Marie: Oh, that’s right! Thanks for reminding me! I’m so glad we
bumped into each other!
海柔： 那套衣裳穿在你身上真是好看。藍
色真是適合你！
瑪麗： 謝謝你。事實上，我是特價的時候
買到這件衣服的。能發現它真是很
幸運。你知道，我也一直都很欣賞
你穿衣服的格調，你的衣服總是那
麼適合你！
海柔： 喔，你說話就是這麼好聽！對了，
你知不知道蘇菲雅百貨公司正在大
減價耶？
瑪麗： 喔，對啊！謝謝你提醒我！遇到你
我真是高興！
Mark: Congratulations on a job well done, John. Your speech had
everyone on the edge of their seats.
John: Thanks, Mark. I’ll have to tell Bob as soon as we get back to
the office. He helped with the important last section. What’s
more, you designed a great product.
Mark: Don’t mention it. I had lots of help. By the way, we’ve already
got a bunch of orders in. They’ve got to be sent out immediately.
John: Let ’s get back to the office and tell the production department
to get moving!
Spread some cheer! Practice giving praise and compliments. You will soon
find kind words coming your way, too.
馬可： 恭禧，你說得真棒，約翰。你的演
講真是吸引了所有人的注意力。
約翰： 謝謝你，馬可。等我們一回到辦公
室，我一定要馬上告訴鮑伯。他在
結尾那個重要的部份幫了大忙，而
更重要的是，你設計了很棒的產
品。
馬可： 不要這樣說，好多人幫我忙。對
了，我們已經接到一大疊的訂單
了，東西得馬上寄出去。
約翰： 我們回辦公室去，請生產部趕快行
動吧！
多多練習如何讚美和稱許來散播一些
歡樂吧！，你很快就會發現別人也在稱讚
你呢！
@Word Bank
self-esteem (n)
自尊心
motivate (v)
激發
overdo (v)
過分表示
kid (v)
開玩笑；逗
開玩笑；逗
respond (v)
回應；反應
focus (n)
焦點；中心點
mention (v)
提及
回應；反應
focus (n)
焦點；中心點
mention (v)
提及
respond (v)
回應；反應
focus (n)
焦點；中心點
mention (v)
提及
回應；反應
focus (n)
焦點；中心點
mention (v)
提及
outfit (n)
整套服飾裝扮
整套服飾裝扮
cheer (n)
喜悅；歡樂
喜悅；歡樂
@The Day's Phrase
Bringing happiness to others
把幸福帶給他人
You'll have to watch your language at our house. My mom doesn't like to hear bad words.
你在我們家說話要小心，我媽媽可不喜歡聽到不當的字眼。
Reconnecting children to their culture, their traditions and their loved ones
讓孩子與其文化、傳統和親人重新連結
Wow, Wilma, you look tired. Have you been burning the midnight oil again?
噢，威瑪，妳看起來很疲倦。最近妳又在挑燈夜戰了嗎？
噢，威瑪，妳看起來很疲倦。最近妳又在挑燈夜戰了嗎？
Facebook is making it harder for criminals to cover their tracks
Facebook 讓歹徒更加難掩行蹤
Facebook 讓歹徒更加難掩行蹤
Even though Yvonne and Zachary are great friends, they fight like cats and dogs.
雖然以芳和撒迦利是很好的朋友，他們還是常常吵得雞犬不寧。
雖然以芳和撒迦利是很好的朋友，他們還是常常吵得雞犬不寧。
Amy is a great maid. She'll bend over backwards to make sure your room looks good.
愛咪是個好女傭。她會竭盡所能讓你的房間看起來乾淨整齊。
愛咪是個好女傭。她會竭盡所能讓你的房間看起來乾淨整齊。
When do you need to see the doctor?
甚麼時候該去看醫生？
甚麼時候該去看醫生？
It's always fun to go to Beatrice's house. She welcomes everyone with open arms.
去碧翠絲的家一向很好玩。她總是展開雙臂歡迎每一個人。
去碧翠絲的家一向很好玩。她總是展開雙臂歡迎每一個人。
Amazing natural arches set this high desert apart
令人歎為觀止的自然拱石使這片高地沙漠與眾不同
令人歎為觀止的自然拱石使這片高地沙漠與眾不同
Why won't you answer my question? Has the cat got your tongue?
你為何不回答我的問題？你成了啞巴了嗎？
你為何不回答我的問題？你成了啞巴了嗎？
We'd better ask Mom when she's in a good frame of mind.
我們最好在媽媽心情好的時候問她。
我們最好在媽媽心情好的時候問她。
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